My Family Moments: Countdown has begun!

Monday, March 31, 2014

Countdown has begun!

3 1/2 weeks from today. The 18 month hearing will be taking place and I will be sitting in the room. I was asked if I wanted to be there and I jumped at the chance. I thought about it afterwards, but said yes immediately when she brought it up. I was told I have invested our families lives in this little boy and his mother and deserve to be present when the judge makes his next decision. Thinking about it, I realized I want to see what the judges face looks like when he hears all the "progress" BioMom has made. NOT! I want to see and hear how he addresses BioMom. Is he genuinely concerned about her as a Mom or is he tainted by the criminal aspect of her life, especially since she had revisited her juvenile delinquent status recently. What I am really afraid of is the judge treating her like a case number. If I knew that is how the hearing would be going I honestly wouldn't want to be there. It will infuriate me! Not because I am involved and this "case" is about the well-being of my son, more so because I would be sitting there not able to say anything. Not able to tell the judge that he has no clue what he is talking about. That the county system is the reason this girl is sitting here in this situation. Maybe I should get a T-shirt made with "Little Man's" picture on it. lol... Fine, I won't.
I'm really not interested in how the next 3 1/2 weeks are going to play out. I'm so done with visits and the joke of the county workers decision making. Clarifying of course that I do like my SW as a person. She is very sweet. I know she has a good heart. I just don't understand how she is all connected with that heart. It's almost like she turns it off when she makes the decisions. I mean, the decision to recommend Termination of Rights is a hard decision to make but then why follow that up with a referral for more services for BioMom?! I don't get it!

1 comment:

M&N said...: WOW! I am amazed she has been given a FULL 18 months. So sad for little man. Can't wait to hear the update from that court session! ;0) We have our intro foster class next week. ;0); Monday, March 31, 2014

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"Foster Family" Terminology

SW: Social Worker = This is a professionally trained (at times I feel from a YouTube video) individual who works for any County or private organization. My foster baby will have a SW and I will have a SW who is also known as a CCW. (see below)

CCW: Clinical Case Worker = This is a professionally trained individual, also known as a Social Worker who works for Angel’s Foster Family Network. They are assigned to a maximum of 12 families at one time and lead them through the fostering system. They are our right hand gal. (no males as of yet) This person does all the legal pushing and pulling on our behalf so we can focus solely on loving and caring for our foster babies. I would not and will not ever do my job as a foster mom without these people.

Supervised Visit = The bioparent has rights to see their child no matter the circumstances. Most often the visits begin as 1 to 2 hours, 1 to 2 times a week. An adult that is approved must watch the parent with the child at all times. (sometimes a lot of work and sometimes boring as heck)

Unsupervised Visit = The bioparent has rights to see their child no matter the circumstances before. If they are improving their situation then they will eventually get the right to have visits without supervision. The foster parent must drop off the child at an approved location and pick them up later. Most often the visit is for 2-6 hours 1 to 2 times a week. And these will only increase in length as the situation improves. (super hard for the foster parent to move to this step)

Foster Baby/Child = A child that has been removed from their biological family due to many different reasons affecting the welfare of the child. They are then placed in protective custody under the County and State.