My Family Moments: More children

Monday, October 20, 2008

More children

I want another baby. To most of the people included in my life this is not news. If I think down the road that we have decided to have another baby, I get so excited. I can't wait to find out the sex, plan their wardrobe and just being pregnant. Then in that very same moment, Erwin and I start to bicker or not soon after we are arguing about how to raise Ethan and Abby. And here I am about 10 hours later wondering what the heck am I thinking wanting another baby? Er and I bicker most of the time when it comes to the kids and making the right decision for them. I just start to feel selfish and guilty when it comes to me thinking about raising another child when we can't even agree on how to raise the two we already have. I am seriously torn. And I really have no idea how Erwin feels. I know, start there right? I just don't think it's fair to be mad at something he said to the kids then in the next breathe try to convince him to have another baby. lol... what a mess.

Is it the father's job to push the kids to reach their goals and maximize their abilities and then the mother's job is to catch them when they fall short or can't handle it? Maybe if I figure this out, the parenting dilemmas between Er and I might fall into place. "Might" being the key word!

Night Night!

p.s. Just thinking of baby names puts a smile on my face. ;)

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"Foster Family" Terminology

SW: Social Worker = This is a professionally trained (at times I feel from a YouTube video) individual who works for any County or private organization. My foster baby will have a SW and I will have a SW who is also known as a CCW. (see below)

CCW: Clinical Case Worker = This is a professionally trained individual, also known as a Social Worker who works for Angel’s Foster Family Network. They are assigned to a maximum of 12 families at one time and lead them through the fostering system. They are our right hand gal. (no males as of yet) This person does all the legal pushing and pulling on our behalf so we can focus solely on loving and caring for our foster babies. I would not and will not ever do my job as a foster mom without these people.

Supervised Visit = The bioparent has rights to see their child no matter the circumstances. Most often the visits begin as 1 to 2 hours, 1 to 2 times a week. An adult that is approved must watch the parent with the child at all times. (sometimes a lot of work and sometimes boring as heck)

Unsupervised Visit = The bioparent has rights to see their child no matter the circumstances before. If they are improving their situation then they will eventually get the right to have visits without supervision. The foster parent must drop off the child at an approved location and pick them up later. Most often the visit is for 2-6 hours 1 to 2 times a week. And these will only increase in length as the situation improves. (super hard for the foster parent to move to this step)

Foster Baby/Child = A child that has been removed from their biological family due to many different reasons affecting the welfare of the child. They are then placed in protective custody under the County and State.