My Family Moments: FOUND

Sunday, July 6, 2014

FOUND

Found: One young drug-addict male, recovering on own, with baby picture that looks EXACTLY like “Little Man”, who is very interested in taking a DNA test to claim paternity of said child.

Baby daddy option #4 was a winner. The winner of a county supplied atty and possibly services to help him through his recovery towards possible custody of his son who for 20 months has called another man Da-Da. Prior to him wanting visits, I wanted nothing to do with him. I never made eye contact with him at the two court hearings I attended. I knew he was there. He knew who I was since BioMom would acknowledge my presence. Why didn’t I want to meet him? Easy -- I didn’t want or need to care about another human being till I knew I had to care about another human being. Cold? Maybe. Boundaries? For sure!

He’s a kid. That for me makes it worse cuz I’m a Mom and a teacher’s wife. Kids are part of our life every single day. (the obvious ones aside) I just wonder if he is going to stick it out through this chaotic life BioMom has created for "Little Man”. My feelings are on the plus side. I hope I’m right.

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"Foster Family" Terminology

SW: Social Worker = This is a professionally trained (at times I feel from a YouTube video) individual who works for any County or private organization. My foster baby will have a SW and I will have a SW who is also known as a CCW. (see below)

CCW: Clinical Case Worker = This is a professionally trained individual, also known as a Social Worker who works for Angel’s Foster Family Network. They are assigned to a maximum of 12 families at one time and lead them through the fostering system. They are our right hand gal. (no males as of yet) This person does all the legal pushing and pulling on our behalf so we can focus solely on loving and caring for our foster babies. I would not and will not ever do my job as a foster mom without these people.

Supervised Visit = The bioparent has rights to see their child no matter the circumstances. Most often the visits begin as 1 to 2 hours, 1 to 2 times a week. An adult that is approved must watch the parent with the child at all times. (sometimes a lot of work and sometimes boring as heck)

Unsupervised Visit = The bioparent has rights to see their child no matter the circumstances before. If they are improving their situation then they will eventually get the right to have visits without supervision. The foster parent must drop off the child at an approved location and pick them up later. Most often the visit is for 2-6 hours 1 to 2 times a week. And these will only increase in length as the situation improves. (super hard for the foster parent to move to this step)

Foster Baby/Child = A child that has been removed from their biological family due to many different reasons affecting the welfare of the child. They are then placed in protective custody under the County and State.