My Family Moments: A little rant for ya!

Wednesday, December 4, 2013

A little rant for ya!

It has been more than one year since “Little Man” became a part of our family. He is one year old now and hasn’t started walking yet but I can’t believe he is one! I can’t believe I will be handing off my 1 year old to another family. Sounds so weird. (We are not even close to that time.) I know we were going to have to deal with this kind of timeline eventually but I really thought that taking in newborns was giving us a better chance of not having them for too long. Wiped that one off my ‘Don’t have to worry about’ list. What a day that will be. I know it will be sad. Giving away a baby that we have loved will always be sad no matter how long their stay. The thing that gets to me is how it will affect “Little Man”. He is going to be devastated to leave his Momma, Dadda, Brother and Sister and his world of routine, warmth and healthy activity. I know I know… everything we have given to this point has prepared him for that moment where he is challenged in the life he will lead. But gosh!! Why is it taking so long and why does she get another chance to screw him up? Shouldn’t it be that once you possibly screw up someone’s life by doing drugs or putting them in danger, you don’t get a second chance? Yes, she was handed some crappy cards in the beginning but look, her son now has been given a clean deck of brand new cards. Why not watch how those cards will completely help him to lead the life you always wanted to live. Watch him thrive in a family who can give him that. Then I remember she has a different view of “Foster” and “Adoption”. They aren’t exactly positive in her eyes. She probably thinks she will do a better job of raising him than another family. But she doesn’t realize that Angel’s has its hands in the mix now and we do whatever we can to help make that a different situation. Getting tired a bit early tonight, as I sit high on my pedestal of everything that is good and right with the world. A magic wand is all I need right? Can I get those on ETSY ya think?

--> P.S. Plan#2 from the Social Worker is now history. "Little Man" will be with us through the new Year! UGH!! More details to come...

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"Foster Family" Terminology

SW: Social Worker = This is a professionally trained (at times I feel from a YouTube video) individual who works for any County or private organization. My foster baby will have a SW and I will have a SW who is also known as a CCW. (see below)

CCW: Clinical Case Worker = This is a professionally trained individual, also known as a Social Worker who works for Angel’s Foster Family Network. They are assigned to a maximum of 12 families at one time and lead them through the fostering system. They are our right hand gal. (no males as of yet) This person does all the legal pushing and pulling on our behalf so we can focus solely on loving and caring for our foster babies. I would not and will not ever do my job as a foster mom without these people.

Supervised Visit = The bioparent has rights to see their child no matter the circumstances. Most often the visits begin as 1 to 2 hours, 1 to 2 times a week. An adult that is approved must watch the parent with the child at all times. (sometimes a lot of work and sometimes boring as heck)

Unsupervised Visit = The bioparent has rights to see their child no matter the circumstances before. If they are improving their situation then they will eventually get the right to have visits without supervision. The foster parent must drop off the child at an approved location and pick them up later. Most often the visit is for 2-6 hours 1 to 2 times a week. And these will only increase in length as the situation improves. (super hard for the foster parent to move to this step)

Foster Baby/Child = A child that has been removed from their biological family due to many different reasons affecting the welfare of the child. They are then placed in protective custody under the County and State.