My Family Moments: Null -n- Void

Thursday, December 5, 2013

Null -n- Void

BioMom has been so excited about the upcoming changes with "Little Man's" visits. It kills me because there is no way it can happen like the Social Worker had told her. I had leaned on my case worker and suggested that BioMom call her SW so some clarification could be made.

"Little Man" will be with us till January now. Yes, I am shaking my head right along side of you. Our hearts are lighter since we don't have to worry about the big changes and the big holiday coming. But now, I will be dropping off our bundle of laughs one day for 2 hours where she can take him to the local mall without supervision. And on another day she will get him for 4 hours without supervision at her home. This is going to start getting hard for me and him!! LOL... I know it seems like this other stuff is hard. It is for sure but this is the part that can't be described. (Im sure I will try to relay the feelings somehow) He is already crying for me when she goes to take him out of the car. SUCKS!! (Can you feel that?) When I think with a clear logical head this is exactly what needs to happen. Thank God it is starting to take form. I just know how bumpy the road is going to get for him. And it gives me a bit of a stomach ache. This is really the only way to solidly know that she is ready to care for him. I just have to pray that the SW starts to be a SW and do her job thoroughly. This way when her decision is made, it is from a clear picture of BioMom as a Mom, not just as a babysitter.

After, I was given the green light by the SW to start scheduling the new visits, I called BioMom. The thing is, the SW has a lot of, let's say, trust in me. She leaves a lot of decision making up to me. Drives me insane! If you are going to let me make decisions then let me make all the decisions. Im all or nothing. Always have been. SW was only going to give BioMom 4 hrs of unsupervised time in addition to her 2 hours of supervised time. Made no sense to me. It was baby steps after a year of baby steps. I suggested it all be unsupervised and she responded, "If you think she can handle it, sure!" --No I don't think so, but she needs to show the judge she can't. This is the way. When I told Mom the changes I had pushed, she was super grateful! Not knowing it was going to be followed by a little straight forward advice from me.

...to be continued...

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"Foster Family" Terminology

SW: Social Worker = This is a professionally trained (at times I feel from a YouTube video) individual who works for any County or private organization. My foster baby will have a SW and I will have a SW who is also known as a CCW. (see below)

CCW: Clinical Case Worker = This is a professionally trained individual, also known as a Social Worker who works for Angel’s Foster Family Network. They are assigned to a maximum of 12 families at one time and lead them through the fostering system. They are our right hand gal. (no males as of yet) This person does all the legal pushing and pulling on our behalf so we can focus solely on loving and caring for our foster babies. I would not and will not ever do my job as a foster mom without these people.

Supervised Visit = The bioparent has rights to see their child no matter the circumstances. Most often the visits begin as 1 to 2 hours, 1 to 2 times a week. An adult that is approved must watch the parent with the child at all times. (sometimes a lot of work and sometimes boring as heck)

Unsupervised Visit = The bioparent has rights to see their child no matter the circumstances before. If they are improving their situation then they will eventually get the right to have visits without supervision. The foster parent must drop off the child at an approved location and pick them up later. Most often the visit is for 2-6 hours 1 to 2 times a week. And these will only increase in length as the situation improves. (super hard for the foster parent to move to this step)

Foster Baby/Child = A child that has been removed from their biological family due to many different reasons affecting the welfare of the child. They are then placed in protective custody under the County and State.