My Family Moments: Er hates it... part 1

Sunday, December 22, 2013

Er hates it... part 1

BioMom, "You have got to step up girlfriend! You can't just sit back and wait for the SW to make a choice. Fight for what you want. If you sit back and just ride, it's not going to turn out in your favor. Time will be up and the judge won't have any proof you can handle this." Yep, I said it right to her. I've said it before, but again, this girl was dealt a hand that has a slim chance to none of coming out well. I kind of feel like there needs to be a little gentle shove right now. Nothing in the beginning was her fault. She was forced into this world of drugs, child welfare, uncertainty and so much more. With only that has your base it will always be an uphill battle to stay on the right path. And in this world of fast, more, bigger, better, it's no wonder that 85% of the people incarcerated today were in the Foster system.

Erwin hates the fact that I talk to BioMom as her supporter. I can't help it. Not only do I still look at her like one of our Volleyball girls, but I know from stories I've heard that there is a huge chance she is going to get "Little Man" back in the end. If this is true then I want her to be prepared. Now, I'm not going to do her homework for her. I don't constantly remind her of things she should be doing or not doing. If she is going to choose to fail, then I'm not going to stop her. But, I am for sure going to let her know that I am in her corner. Someone has to be. Hey if she is going to do anything to boost her chances of getting him back, it's not going to come from me pushing her in the right direction. I just want her to feel like she is not alone. I keep my boundaries. And trust me, she pisses me off enough of the time that I'm glad I am not investing my heart and soul into her recovery.

...to be continued

:)Amy

2 comments:

Misty said...: I'm sure it's difficult not to have compassion for her as it sounds like she's just a child herself. If she is going to get him back, hopefully she will listen and gain some skills to be able to actually care for him. A difficult and hard line there for sure!; Friday, December 27, 2013
Amy said...: Thank you Misty for your support and understanding. Fingers are crossed for the parenting mentor to be assigned soon!; Friday, December 27, 2013

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"Foster Family" Terminology

SW: Social Worker = This is a professionally trained (at times I feel from a YouTube video) individual who works for any County or private organization. My foster baby will have a SW and I will have a SW who is also known as a CCW. (see below)

CCW: Clinical Case Worker = This is a professionally trained individual, also known as a Social Worker who works for Angel’s Foster Family Network. They are assigned to a maximum of 12 families at one time and lead them through the fostering system. They are our right hand gal. (no males as of yet) This person does all the legal pushing and pulling on our behalf so we can focus solely on loving and caring for our foster babies. I would not and will not ever do my job as a foster mom without these people.

Supervised Visit = The bioparent has rights to see their child no matter the circumstances. Most often the visits begin as 1 to 2 hours, 1 to 2 times a week. An adult that is approved must watch the parent with the child at all times. (sometimes a lot of work and sometimes boring as heck)

Unsupervised Visit = The bioparent has rights to see their child no matter the circumstances before. If they are improving their situation then they will eventually get the right to have visits without supervision. The foster parent must drop off the child at an approved location and pick them up later. Most often the visit is for 2-6 hours 1 to 2 times a week. And these will only increase in length as the situation improves. (super hard for the foster parent to move to this step)

Foster Baby/Child = A child that has been removed from their biological family due to many different reasons affecting the welfare of the child. They are then placed in protective custody under the County and State.