My Family Moments: How can this be?

Wednesday, January 15, 2014

How can this be?

Caring about how the mother is going to be a good mother doesn't matter. Deep down I know she can't do it. The county has a different idea. All that matters to them is that she can keep him safe and healthy. It's called "Minimum Proficiency". Can she call 911 when necessary? Can she call the Dr. when she needs to? Does she know when and how to change his diaper? Those are the things they check on. I guess if you can do that high then you are good to go. Ok, well that wasn't fair I know.

I have again come to the point where I need to back away and be reminded of what I am supposed to be doing here. I am a Foster Mom who has a responsibility of caring for and loving on a bee-utiful baby boy. Part of that is taking him to see his biological Mom when I am told to. Complete lots of fabulous paperwork and that's it. Nothing else. At the end of my job I am to give this boy to whomever I am told to. It will be harder than anything I have had to do. The pain in my heart will be debilitating for sure. My support system is in place and will be waiting to hold up my family and I. Till then, I will be the best MOM I can be to my 3 kids. Now this I know I can do!

:)Amy

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"Foster Family" Terminology

SW: Social Worker = This is a professionally trained (at times I feel from a YouTube video) individual who works for any County or private organization. My foster baby will have a SW and I will have a SW who is also known as a CCW. (see below)

CCW: Clinical Case Worker = This is a professionally trained individual, also known as a Social Worker who works for Angel’s Foster Family Network. They are assigned to a maximum of 12 families at one time and lead them through the fostering system. They are our right hand gal. (no males as of yet) This person does all the legal pushing and pulling on our behalf so we can focus solely on loving and caring for our foster babies. I would not and will not ever do my job as a foster mom without these people.

Supervised Visit = The bioparent has rights to see their child no matter the circumstances. Most often the visits begin as 1 to 2 hours, 1 to 2 times a week. An adult that is approved must watch the parent with the child at all times. (sometimes a lot of work and sometimes boring as heck)

Unsupervised Visit = The bioparent has rights to see their child no matter the circumstances before. If they are improving their situation then they will eventually get the right to have visits without supervision. The foster parent must drop off the child at an approved location and pick them up later. Most often the visit is for 2-6 hours 1 to 2 times a week. And these will only increase in length as the situation improves. (super hard for the foster parent to move to this step)

Foster Baby/Child = A child that has been removed from their biological family due to many different reasons affecting the welfare of the child. They are then placed in protective custody under the County and State.